Three Necessary Conditions for Changing Someone’s Mind

| | General Leadership

Three conditions must be present for people to engage with you to explore new ways of looking at situations: willingness, desire, and courage.

Dr. Marcia Reynolds is passionate about changing the conversations leaders have at work. She feels the most effective leaders help people think more broadly for themselves, and believes that when leaders have powerful conversations that change people’s minds from the inside out, the workplace comes alive with an eagerness to discover what is possible. 

People don’t change because you want them to. They might not even change if they want to.

Three conditions must be present for people to engage with you to explore new ways of looking at situations: willingness, desire, and courage. Without these conditions, you will be frustrated with the waste of time. You can, however, help to build in these conditions so when you move to exploring possibilities, people move with you.

To engage in a mind-changing conversation with someone, first assess their levels of Willingness, Desire, and Courage. tweet this

Inspire the Willingness to Talk

You can’t insist someone have an exploratory conversation with you and expect it to be fruitful. [click to continue...]


Are You Willing to Speak up?

| | Personal Leadership

Are You Willing to Speak Up?

Malala Yousafzai from Pakistan won the 2014 Nobel Peace Prize, along with Kailash Satyarthi from India, for their extraordinary work in standing for the right of all children to an education.  For most of us in the western world, speaking up may require courage, but rarely does it require us to risk our lives as was the case for Malala.

She was not allowed to go to school as a girl because of Talibanization.  Here is an excerpt from her story:

“At that time I stood up for my rights and I decided that I would speak up.  I did not wait for someone else. I had really two options.  One was not to speak and then be killed.  The second was to speak up and and then be killed. . . At that time I needed to raise my voice because I wanted to go back to school. . . I wanted to learn and to be who I can be in my future.”

She took a stand for herself, and in the process took a stand for the children of the world.  She goes on to say something we can all learn from when we are faced with the choice to speak up or not in our own lives. [click to continue...]


The Key to Alignment

| | General Leadership

The Key to Alignment

The mood was extremely tense. Forty leaders gathered in a room to address a crisis in their community. The meeting was closed to the press. There was a story to be told, but none of these leaders wanted to let the press turn an isolated incident into an indictment on their town.

We had two hours to get on the same page about how to handle the situation. History would definitely not have predicted a positive outcome.  It seemed unlikely this group could reach agreement about anything, let alone something so significant.  As one of the key players described it, this was a lions den.

Despite the odds this group did, indeed, come together.

Of course, the ultimate test of alignment is not in what people say, but rather what they do.  As the meeting came to a close and the doors were opened, the press descended on us. There were trucks, reporters and camera crews surrounding the building, But there was only one person questions were directed to by every single person in that meeting. [click to continue...]

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