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Are You A Muse for Magnificence?

Is there someone who has believed in you even when you have gone through the dark days of self doubt?

Is there anyone in your life who listens for the best in you even when you are at your worst? They might even be tough on you, not out of judgement, but because they know who you really are and are calling for you to be and do your best at all times.

Do you have someone you call on your best days and feel free to unabashedly boast about your most recent accomplishment, big or small.  You call them because you know they not only want to celebrate your wins with you, but feel joy when you do.  And they know, perhaps better than anyone, what the accomplishment means to you in terms of what you had to do and who you had to be to make it happen.

If you have one person who provides any one of the above for you, you are very fortunate.  While I am lucky to have a few champions in my corner, there is one person who stands out for me in this regard: Rich Largman,  For over 15 years he has been a dear friend, a trusted colleague, and one of my favorite people with whom to collaborate.  He is also my coach.

I have dubbed him a “muse for magnificence”.  Rarely have I met anyone who so generously listens for the absolute best in everyone.  He has a talent for helping people get in touch with and choose to act based on the best in themselves.  It is a key to his excellence as a coach and the quality of his friendships.

While I have the good fortune to have Rich in my inner circle, it is important to note, however, that how he relates to me is not reserved for me or just the “special” people in his life. It is who he chooses to be for everyone.  If there was such a thing as a superpower when it comes to leadership this would be his.

Yet consider being a “muse for magnificence” is an incredibly potent skill anyone can learn.

Taking a stand for someone in this way is perhaps one of the most powerful acts of leadership of all if you wish to cultivate leadership in others.

It is one of those “simple, but not easy” things to do for most of us.  Yet with commitment and practice it can not only be learned, but mastered.

What about you?

Do you have a “muse for magnificence”? If so, what do they uniquely provide for you that brings out your personal best?

Are you a “muse for magnificence” for others?  If so, what guidance can you provide in helping others to become one too?

 

 

 

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Tara Alemany   |   03 May 2012   |   Reply

Thanks for sharing this post, Susan! I love the concept of having a “muse for magnificence.” One in particular readily comes to mind. His name is Rick Schwartz of Sales Addiction. We met at a local networking meeting (was it only 2 years ago now?) when I was new in business and he was starting a new phase in his career; transitioning from being a real estate agent to a sales coach.

Recognizing that I needed what he had to offer, and hoping he needed a guinea pig to establish his coaching with, I volunteered to meet with him. That simple act led to a beautiful friendship. We have collaborated together on projects, supported one another through challenging personal and professional situations, talked sense into one another, and generally been cheerleaders for one another.

I can grouse, vent, and brag to him and know that it’s a safe thing to do. Yet, every time I do, I feel more focused, capable and empowered to accomplish my goals.

Perhaps it helps that our businesses are at similar stages of growth, and that we’re encountering some of the same challenges around the same time. But I think the main thing is, there’s no judgment between us. We each recognize that fear and self-doubt are human emotions; not indicators of our professional capabilities. We point to past successes to encourage and enlighten each other.

Rick’s mentoring, collaboration, and friendship have been crucial elements in overcoming hurdles and obstacles in my business, and I’m happy to call him “friend.”

Susan Mazza   |   04 May 2012   |   Reply

Thanks for sharing about Rick here Tara. What a great example! You have hit on something that is key to this kind of relationship – no judgement.

Tara Alemany   |   04 May 2012   |   Reply

I have to tell you, Susan, that this post touched me so much that it inspired something today. I attend a networking meeting this morning that I love. We meet every two weeks. During our elevator speeches, we always tack on one question that everyone’s to answer. It gives us deeper insight into one another as individuals, and I really enjoy it. Sometimes it’s about our holiday traditions. Other times, most embarrassing moments, etc. Today, I suggested that we each share who our muse for magnificence is. Everyone really liked the idea, and we had a great time sharing that information. For some of us, it was a great way to build others up within our group.

Thanks again!

Susan Mazza   |   04 May 2012   |   Reply

I love how you applied this concept at your meeting. A great idea! Thanks so much for sharing it here. I am glad this post has resonated so deeply with you.