Coaching Lessons From A Reality TV Show

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Coaching Lessons from A Reality TV Show

When it comes to reality TV, I’m not a fan. That is, except for The Voice.

The show begins with four music stars listening to people sing. The unique part about the setup is that it’s a blind audition.

The first step is to choose who they want on their team. It’s really all about what they hear, because they don’t see the performer until after they offer to coach them.

It’s fun to see the stars stare in wonder when a voice and a person’s physical appearance seem to be a complete mismatch. The adage “don’t judge a book by its cover” comes to mind. You can’t help but wonder: would they have looked past some of those great voices if they had seen what person looked like first?

You then get to watch the process as raw talent is nurtured and boundaries are stretched. The growth is often remarkable. You also get to see the heart and soul of these stars as they pour themselves into making other people shine.

It is amazing how much power a leader can have when they are willing to shift the spotlight to others and invest themselves in their success. tweet this

Here are 5 coaching lessons from The Voice:

1. A successful coaching relationship begins with choice.

These coaches can work very hard trying to sway the performer to choose them. Ultimately, though, it is up to the person being coached to choose. In choosing, the person being coached gives the coach permission to coach them. Without that permission, a coach’s impact will be limited. For example, I’ve seen managers try to coach an employee and have zero impact. Just because you manage someone doesn’t mean they give you permission to coach them.

2. Great coaches amplify the uniqueness of the individual.

These coaches focus on helping their team members to be the best version of themselves, rather than try to get them to emulate someone else. They may suggest changing their choice of music or modifying their technique to reveal new possibilities, but never attempt to change who they are.

3. Effective coaches nurture people into stretching their boundaries and bust through their self-imposed limitations.

They encourage and even demonstrate what they could try or do differently, vs. demanding or forcing their opinion.

4. Great coaches demonstrate how much they care.

They are moved by the success of the person they are coaching. They are willing to be surprised — and even blown away — when their own expectations are exceeded. They acknowledge progress and celebrate success.

5. A great coaching relationship is a collaboration.

The coach may have more knowledge and experience in a particular area, but they recognize that no one knows the person being coached or what they want for themselves better than that person himself. The feedback goes both ways.

What lessons have you learned about effective coaching from observing those who do it well?


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Terry Whitaker   |   30 November 2015   |   Reply

great blog

Susan Mazza   |   30 November 2015   |   Reply

Thanks Terry!