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The Key to Being Resilient

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The Key to Being Resilient

To understand what it really means to be resilient, it is helpful to consider resiliency juxtaposed with what it is not. Resiliency is being flexible vs. rigid, changeable vs. fixed, and malleable vs. hard.

In a NY Times article titled Making Modern Toughness, David Brooks shares this observation about resiliency:

The people we admire for being resilient are not hard, they are ardent. They have a fervent commitment to some cause, some ideal, or some relationship. That higher yearning enables them to withstand setbacks, pain and betrayal.

In the face of our most daunting trials we can choose to be resilient, adapting and changing to move forward in spite of fear and pain, or we can choose to harden ourselves to ward off future hurt and disappointment.

David’s insightful article offers the key to which one we are likely to choose.

Simply said, the key to being resilient is to have a compelling why.

As Nietzsche put it, “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”

If you want to set yourself up to be resilient enough to pursue your dreams through to their realization, it is critical that you get clear about more than your goals. Take the time to also get crystal clear about why achieving those goals truly matter.

It is your “why” that will be the source of your choice to keep going no matter what. And it is your “why” that is the source of your personal power.

You may even discover in the process that it was never about the goal anyway, but rather about who you have become because of your “why.”

What is your “why” – the why that will be the source of your resiliency in pursuing your dream?

 

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Dustin Mathews   |   14 March 2017   |   Reply

I hadn’t considered the why in tandem with bouncing back – especially from difficult situations. I can see how having a strong enough why can propel you forward no matter where you are. Love your quote ,”Simply said, the key to being #resilient is to have a compelling #why.”

Susan Mazza   |   14 March 2017   |   Reply

Thanks Dustin. Our why is like fuel for our persistence!

karin hurt   |   14 September 2017   |   Reply

YES!!!! I love your definition of resilient and who we admire and why. What’s also interesting to me is how intimidating resiliency in others can be too some for these very same reasons. So jazzed to include your post in the Frontline Festival this month.

Susan Mazza   |   14 September 2017   |   Reply

Thanks so much Karin!

Susan Mazza   |   22 September 2017   |   Reply

Thanks Karin! Great point about resiliency in others too.

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    […] He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”If you want to set yourself up to be resilient enough to pursue your dreams through to their realization, it is critical that you get clear about more than your goals. Take the time to also get crystal clear about why achieving those goals truly matter.It is your “why” that will be the source of your choice to keep going no matter what. And it is your “why” that is the source of your personal power.You may even discover in the process that it was never about the goal anyway, but rather about who you have become because of your “why.”  […]