Who’s in Your Inner Circle?

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Who’s in Your Inner Circle?

Who are the people in your “Inner Circle” – i.e., those people who you believe have the most significant influence on your life from this point forward?

They may be your family members, your friends, the people you work with, and/or the people in the various communities to which you belong such as school or place of worship. They may be people you chose to have in your life or simply people who just seemed to show up.  They may have been there since you were born or just became a part of your life recently.

Yet whoever they are, however they became a part of your life, or for how long they have been in your life is NOT important.

When it comes to cultivating an inner circle of relationships that fuel your success, the essential context for those you cultivate must be based on the future you want for you.

So if you want to take yourself to the next level of success, what IS important is the capacity these individuals have to influence you and your future, for BETTER or for WORSE, from this moment forward.

The use of the word “influence” here is deliberate.  This is NOT about what people can do for you.  It is NOT about ego, encouraging you to start thinking or acting like you are the center of THE universe.

Yet you are the center of YOUR universe, in the sense that the only person who can take full responsibility for the life you have and the life you want is you.  AND every person in your life in some way impacts you, your experience of life, as well as your capacity to make the difference you want to make and live the life you want.

According to research by Dr. David McClelland of Harvard University your “Reference Group” determines as much as 95 percent of your success or failure in life.

Successful people know that their relationships are THE foundation for their success. tweet this

They surround themselves with people who support them in realizing their dreams and living the life they want.  They know that relationships don’t just happen, they must be built and they must be nurtured.

“We become the combined average of the five people we hang around the most.” –Jim Rohn

So who are you choosing to include in your inner circle?

Choose wisely, because your future depends on it.


photo credit: Holtsman


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Pratyush   |   13 March 2014   |   Reply

Great write-up & reminder Susain.We become who we hang around , we become our conversation & our thoughts.
Having Mastermind group has become very important in todays era of dramtic distraction & hyper active & competitive environment..

Thanks for all your encouraging contents..


Susan Mazza   |   13 March 2014   |   Reply

Excellent points Pratyush and thank you for your kind words about my blog.

I guess you could say we are one of the people we hang around with in our own minds so we do need to mind those internal thoughts and conversations as well.

Re: masterminds,I have found that to be a great way to expand my inner circle with high quality people without overextending myself in terms of how many people with whom I can maintain consistent, meaningful contact.

Vatsala Shukla   |   04 April 2014   |   Reply

I could have been a case study for your post, Susan! As we progress towards our goals our Inner Circle does change and the sooner we realize it the better. I call it my Professional Inner Circle and Support Circle. The old friends and non-toxic professional contacts come in the latter. It’s great when there is an intersection of the 2 circles, the sweet spot.

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