What Stand Will You Take for You?

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What Stand Will You Take for You?

Leaders are those who choose to take a stand for a better future. When a leader witnesses a wrong, they are the ones who naturally feel compelled to set things right.

Yet despite how natural and compelling it can be for us to take a stand for others, one of the hardest stands for us to take can be the stand we take for ourselves.

Consider that it is not uncommon to struggle with putting yourself and your dreams first. Faye Mandell, in her book Self-Powerment, shares this fable that speaks to the human condition that is at the heart of why this struggle is so common.

“Once upon this current time, there is Every Person, who lives a limited life – a life predominantly of striving, worrying, and never feeling good enough or achieving enough. Most of the time EP lives in his head, dealing with their day by fretting about the future, having regrets about the past, and fantasizing about what could be. Every once in a while, however, EP experiences the security, the creativity, the completeness that makes them feel truly wonderful. Then he says, “Now this is the way we are supposed to live!” It is as if he hears a familiar bell signaling to him that he has arrived home. Those occasions are rare, however.”

Consider that learning to take stands for yourself is one way to ring that bell by design, setting you on the path to embracing your personal power.

What does taking a stand for yourself look like in practice?

At the most basic level, taking a stand for yourself happens the moment you make a choice to be true to your values, your commitments, or your aspirations.

It could be as simple as saying no to a request from someone, so that you can instead focus on completing a project you are working on that is important to you. It could be saying yes to help someone out, but doing so on terms that work better for you.

Taking a stand for yourself can also involve teaching others how you would like to be treated. For example, you might take a stand to be treated with respect, choosing in moments when you feel disrespected to speak up by asking for someone to change how they are interacting with you.

What stand could you take for yourself now to access your power and elevate your personal leadership?


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Chery Gegelman   |   13 January 2017   |   Reply

I agree Susan! Taking a stand for others is easy – taking one for yourself can be a struggle.

A wise mentor included his stand in his business plan. When I asked why, he said that you have to know what you will stand for before you are faced with it.

Little boundaries or big ones – we need to identify them before we face them.

Susan Mazza   |   15 February 2017   |   Reply

Love your point about boundaries Chery! We can’t get out of the box until we can see the box we are in!